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#122830 - 03/13/02 05:08 PM Re: Dean/Teri question from Newbie
jet Offline
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Registered: 04/12/01
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[Yeah, I strongly believe they had an affair, and I believe it was the relationship that Dean was referring to when he said that he had been completely devastated by one breakup.]

Hi Echo. smile I agree.

[I don't, however, believe that it survived beyond 1997.]

I disagree with this statement for the following reasons:

***I believe that Teri and Deano took a road trip to Graceland in 1998, because the Bugboy isn't an Elvis fan nor would he go to SD for the Sturgis Rally (July, 1998). (Think Hog Heaven! goofy )
***Teri's return to health and happiness. Maybe the Bugboy is behaving himself now, but I doubt it.
***Teri showing up on national TV wearing an Angry Dragon T-shirt. Was she just being very stylish or was it something more than that? wink
***Teri reinstalling her belly stud. I don't think the Bugboy would approve, it's just not his style.
***Teri has moved back to La La Land or at least, is spending a majority of her time there now. (Maybe they call it La La Land because Deano lives there! goofy )
***Teri's new hip dress code. Way out, Teri! (She looks like she stole her clothes from Sonny Bono closet! goofy I doubt that the Cashmere Man would approve of the change.
***No new baby for Teri.
***No new girlfriend for Dean since July, 1998. (Who's he waiting around for? wink )
***Both Deano and Teri seem to enjoy shopping with friends and not partners.
***Deano admitted that he ran into Teri with the children. No mention of partners.
***Deano seems to keep track of Teri whereabouts and career moves.
***Most importantly, I can't believe that Teri would be so mean as to deny Deano some visiting rights to Emerson. That doesn't sound like Teri to me.

[The relationship ended , in my mind,for the fear of a scandal, especially of Teri's side , after Teri got pregnant.]

Cristy C, you're right on target! smile

Since there are 1161 members on this MB, there are 1161 different theories on Deano and Teri's break up. Here's mine:

Teri became pregnant in Feb. 1997 by Deano not the Bugboy. (He wasn't even in town at the time.) Teri panics at the thought that her image and reputation would be ruined and she would be dragged through the tabloid mud. She wants to avoid this at all costs. The solution: return to the safety of her marriage to the Bugboy. On the other hand, Deano is happy at the thought that the pregnancy would force Teri to divorce the Bugboy and be with him. (He's been pressing the issue for a long time.) He's willing to endure anything the tabs will say about them, but Teri's not as strong as Deano. After Teri made the decision to return to the Bugboy, Deano may have flown into a rage and said some things that he regrets to this day and that sealed the break up. Oh, the pain, and I don't know how they stood it. But I don't think that it would have really mattered to Deano who the baby's father was or what his family thought about their relationship - he just wanted her. He loved her so much and IMHO, he still does.

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#122831 - 03/13/02 06:27 PM Re: Dean/Teri question from Newbie
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Registered: 03/07/02
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Ok, ok, you're starting to make me think (boy the ear thing is just freaky!).

But what still gets me is why not get together now? Especially if Dean is Emerson's dad? Do you think maybe Teri and Jon are happy now and Dean is no longer interested? He seems to move from one gorgeous woman to the next (at least, that the public sees)

They seemed to be so friendly during the series - whenever I would watch interviews with them back then. Then it seemed like they were not friendly at the end and haven't really been seen together since, so that hints at a break up, I admit.

Hmmm...

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#122832 - 03/13/02 10:31 PM Re: Dean/Teri question from Newbie
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I have one question that hasn't been addressed here. If Teri was with Dean exclusively and was completely estranged from Jon...what would make Jon take her back and accept her child as his own?

I think for him to act as Emerson's father there must have been at least a chance that he was the father. In other words, he and Teri had some "contact" during the time they were separated. Why else would Jon have taken on the role of Emerson's father???
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#122833 - 03/14/02 09:43 AM Re: Dean/Teri question from Newbie
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[Teri became pregnant in Feb. 1997 by Deano not the Bugboy. (He wasn't even in town at the time.) Teri panics at the thought that her image and reputation would be ruined and she would be dragged through the tabloid mud.]

I agree,Jet, but I want to add something to the story.

I think that,after Teri become pregnant, the two have had long and tiring discussions, whose signs I have seen in the Teri and Dean's acting in the show( the trilogy of Luthor's son).
Finally, I have noticed in I.V.G.Y.U.M.S.some quiet,and I cannot help thinking that the two have made the decision to face the scandal.

What happened then?
Teri went to her husband to tell him her decision ,but the man, did convince her that it was a mistaken, working ably on her fears.
Teri in that moment was scared and,for this extremely vulnerable,and gave up.
Therefore it was the painful break-up, as we have seen in the last two episodes of the series.

Just a speculation of mine and nothing more.
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#122834 - 03/14/02 12:35 PM Re: Dean/Teri question from Newbie
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Wow, alot of different view points on this issue! I am not going to say that anything did happen or didn't happen but one has to look at the last few shows of the series. The passion that was once there was now gone, and it was not just because they were now an 'old married couple' and the writing was bad. I am not saying that it was because of a real life love affair gone wrong but something else had to have happened between the actors to produce the rough atmosphere portrayed. Just some food for thought! wink
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#122835 - 03/14/02 10:28 PM Re: Dean/Teri question from Newbie
Anita Offline
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Cristy suggested:
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I think that, after Teri become pregnant, the two have had long and tiring discussions, whose signs I have seen in the Teri and Dean's acting in the show( the trilogy of Luthor's son). Finally, I have noticed in I.V.G.Y.U.M.S. some quiet, and I cannot help thinking that the two have made the decision to face the scandal.
What happened then? Teri went to her husband to tell him her decision ,but the man, did convince her that it was a mistaken, working ably on her fears. Teri in that moment was scared and, for this extremely vulnerable, and gave up. Therefore it was the painful break-up, as we have seen in the last two episodes of the series.


An extremely interesting interpretation Cristy, one that I hadn't heard or thought of before. It certainly would make sense if the rumor of their affair and subsequent conception of Emmy are true.

methoos62 asked:
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I have one question that hasn't been addressed here. If Teri was with Dean exclusively and was completely estranged from Jon...what would make Jon take her back and accept her child as his own?


If I take Cristy's assessment as a foundation then I think pride might have been part of the answer. Jon had to live with Teri working with Dean for 4 years. I just think he couldn't let go to losing Teri to him. Plus I don't think he wanted to lose his meal ticket. He would have to been a complete idiot not to realize that Teri's chances for success in Hollywood were much greater than his. Even if the series was winding down, Teri made a lot of money on that series and her name was well known. Her chances of landing other roles after the series ended were much greater than his ever were. She's also a better actor than he is, no matter what the genre. Of course as time has shown, that didn't happen. Her vulnerability blinded her into believing she would be better off with Jon and Jon's pride blinded him to the reality that her personal problems during the series (caused by him) probably reduced her chances for roles after the series ended.

I'm just sorry Dean and Teri didn't learn something from the very series they made to popular...that facing your fears and dealing with them is ultimately how you win. Because the result of Teri's decision to stay with Jon afforded her very little as it turns out. Her career has withered.

Jody said:
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I would go so far as to say it didn't happen period, but considering today's morality in general and Dean's morality in particular, anything is possible.

As you know Jody, I disagree with your opinion on the morality or immorality of the alleged affair. I find it more immoral for a man to cheat on his wife within 15 months of their marriage than any alleged immorality of a woman turning to her friend for comfort when her heart was broken. I just wish Dean and Teri had had the courage to just deal with the fallout from any subsequent scandal.

As an aside I do think Dean learned from that experience. His determination to do whatever he has to to keep his son in his life is testament to that.

Interesting thread smile
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#122836 - 03/14/02 10:47 PM Re: Dean/Teri question from Newbie
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I find it more immoral for a man to cheat on his wife within 15 months of their marriage than any alleged immorality of a woman turning to her friend for comfort when her heart was broken


What cheating occurred with Jon? Is it just rumor or common knowledge (i.e. someone involved mentioned it publicly/officially)?
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#122837 - 03/15/02 11:19 AM Re: Dean/Teri question from Newbie
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Registered: 01/13/02
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Are we confusing Dean and Teri with Lois and Clark here?

Or have we been reading too much fanfic?

Separate fantasy with reality!

We could go on forever speculating Leading men having affairs with their leading ladies couldn't we??
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#122838 - 03/15/02 03:27 PM Re: Dean/Teri question from Newbie
jet Offline
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[I just think he couldn't let go to losing Teri to him. Plus I don't think he wanted to lose his meal ticket.]

I agree with Anita, and I would like to add another reason why the Bugboy would take her back and accept the child as his own:

***His claim to fame. What little fame he has is associated with being married to Teri Hatcher. If he didn't have her, he wouldn't have any of the glory and fame that he desires. IMHO, he would be an absolute zero. He owes her everything.

[Are we confusing Dean and Teri with Lois and Clark here?]

Us confused, no way!!! goofy L&C never had an affair and IMHO, Deano and Teri did. L&C waited for marriage before having sex and IMHO, Deano and Teri didn't.

[We could go on forever speculating Leading men having affairs with their leading ladies couldn't we??

It's an old Hollywood and MB tradition. We can't let tradition down! goofy

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#250574 - 09/24/15 09:47 AM Re: Dean/Teri question from Newbie [Re: Jolfn]
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I also have a theory and a slightly different perspective:


Two people get to know and fill a room with incredible chemistry. Fate decides quickly, that they will work closely together in future. While he falls instantly in love with her, she pushes her feelings for him aside and chooses the way of friendship. She throws herself into a relationship, which is doomed to fail from the start. But anything is better than to embark again on someone with whom she cooperates. Anything is better than to be deceived and lied again. The new relationship gives her safety and keeps her from to follow her true feelings.

He however knew exactly why she was in this relationship and tries to convince her over the coming weeks, that he's a decent guy. Maybe it took some time for her to see finally, what each other saw already. Both were not only become close friends, but also in love with each other. She was unconsciously falling in love with her best friend and did not notice it. Even her boyfriend saw it and visited more often the set to make sure that nothing goes between them. It´s time to act, he thought and bought his best friend a ring, to prove her how seriously he meant it with her.

Shortly afterwards came the engagement. However, it was not his ring on her finger but that of her boyfriend. How could she only get engaged with this man? How could he be so wrong about her feelings for him. His mother was right all the time. She was not the right woman for him and she did not love him. Otherwise, she wouldn´t become engaged to another man! Would she? He plunged hurt into a 3 month relationship, but how to love another woman when the own heart belongs to another?

She was sure to have made the right decision. Even though her best friend was not happy about her engagement. He did not say it, but his body language betrayed it. She knew that he had some feelings for her and was concerned about her well-being. How often had she assured her jealous fiancé, that her co-star only had friendly feelings for them. And she had been right. If he had really deep feelings for her, he would have confessed his love for her after she became engaged. Would he not?

But here comes the crux and the realization after her marriage with the wrong man. He had done it. Every day. Unfortunately, she was too blind to see it. It was not the words "I love you" but his endearing gestures, it said. His infinite patience and support on the set, his kindness, friendship and all the little touches. It was his honest kisses in front of camera and his sincere declaration of love at the end of the first season. Although he used his figurines.

It was hard to recognize in the wedding night that she gave her vows the wrong man. He guessed with time, why she refused to him and he trying to get the control over her in the coming weeks. He wanted her to leave the series, hoping thus to save the marriage. She just had to get away from her best friend, that was all. But through this evolved the young marriage into a disaster.

She saw every day the man, she really loved and every day reminded her of her mistake. And even worse: He was now in a new relationship and seemed happy. She neither could not tell him about her true feelings for him, nor of her bad marriage. So she had no choice but to swallow her pain anto play in front of all, how happy she is.

Until such time, when her husband's infidelity became known on the set. Shortly thereafter followed the inevitable storm, which broke about them all. She learned that her best friend wanted to propose to her and her husband anticipated him. Consciously. He had warned him then, to treat his wife well, because he would spend more time with her, than he did. Yes, he knew all the time why this man became engaged to her and he was to hurt to tell her the truth. But after all, she had accepted the application.

The storm ceased and left two people, which working together every day and knew that they love each other. The one caught in an on-off relationship without love, the other in a broken marriage without love. It was only a matter of time until they ceased to fight against the feelings and went on dates secretly. At the end it was the honesty in her eyes when she said: Tell Clark, that I love him!

The storm also left an embittered husband who was not willing to let go his wife. For this purpose, all means were right to him. With a separation, she would have brought bad headlines and this would have bad consequences for her show. His wife was to scared about to physical well-being of the people who were important to her, after his demands and threats. That's what he knew and cradled his marriage in security.

Beginning of season 3, it was her best friend who cradled her in his arms and promised to wait for her. As long as she needed. She said yes to his proposal, a few weeks ago in the rain. It was not the first time that he used the script for private moments. The coming months were hard for the secret relationship. She separated privately from her husband and their families learned of their relationship. Angry, they left no stone unturned to convince both of a big mistake and showed no support up to the end.

But in spite of everything, both believed on their love and were planning their future together. With a new life under her heart, the happiness seemed perfect and the plan to work. Until the worst of storm was falling over them. The press spoke repeatedly of a clandestine affair. So it was at the time to clean all the rumors. This in turn meant to tell the whole truth. But one of them would come out of this story, as a loser.

So her husband found a pressure medium, so that his wife couldn't leave him.
Nobody should know the secret about her bad childhood. So she protected the man she loved and the new life under her heart and stayed with the man, she didn't love.

Thenceforth parted the paths of two people, who loved each other sincerely. How often their paths since then met again and what part they play in the lives of the other today, is uncertain. But what one can certainly say: Both put their children in front of their own happiness and would do anything to protect them !!!
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